Remembering Kirby: The Man Who Epitomized Inner Beauty

Remembering Kirby: The Man Who Epitomized Inner Beauty

BURLINGTON, VT — The world lost a truly remarkable soul on July 11 with the passing of Kirby, a Burlington native who touched lives far beyond his quiet Vermont community. Kirby wasn’t a household name, but for those who knew him—and many more who saw him in a now-iconic role—he represented something rare and enduring: inner beauty.

Kirby first came to national attention when acclaimed filmmaker Peter Farrelly cast him in the 2001 romantic comedy Shallow Hal, starring Jack Black and Gwyneth Paltrow. In a film known for challenging conventional standards of beauty, Kirby stood out—not just for his appearance, but for the quiet dignity, kindness, and authenticity he brought to the screen. His role was brief, but unforgettable.

At the time of casting, Farrelly explained why he chose Kirby. “We were looking for someone who epitomized inner beauty,” Farrelly said. “And the moment I met Kirby, I knew we had found him. He had this light in his eyes, this deep compassion in how he spoke to people. He was genuine, through and through.”

Kirby’s presence in Shallow Hal was not a performance in the traditional sense; he wasn’t acting. He was simply being himself—warm, thoughtful, and humble. Viewers were deeply moved by the way Kirby’s character radiated goodness and compassion, standing as a counterpoint to society’s often superficial focus on physical appearance.

But Kirby’s legacy goes far beyond a movie role.

Back in Burlington, he was a beloved figure. Friends remember his soft-spoken nature, his unshakable optimism, and the way he made everyone feel seen and valued. He was a frequent volunteer at local shelters, a friend to the elderly, and a mentor to young people struggling to find their way. In a world often obsessed with status and image, Kirby chose instead to build a life rooted in service, sincerity, and love.

Local café owner Margot Lively recalled, “Kirby used to come in every morning, order his usual tea, and take the time to ask how everyone was doing—like really ask. He remembered birthdays, anniversaries, names of customers’ kids. He made people feel special.”

Another friend added, “You never left a conversation with Kirby without feeling lighter, more hopeful. He had a way of reminding you of what really mattered.”

Even after the film’s release and the brief brush with Hollywood, Kirby remained unchanged. He never sought fame or accolades. He returned home, resumed his life, and continued to serve his community in quiet, profound ways. “Fame didn’t impress him,” said longtime friend and neighbor Allen Greene. “What impressed him was kindness, integrity, and courage in the everyday.”

Peter Farrelly, upon hearing of Kirby’s passing, released a heartfelt tribute:

“Kirby was one of those rare souls who reminded you of the goodness in humanity. He made our film better, but more importantly, he made the world better. I am deeply saddened by his loss but so grateful to have known him, even briefly.”

Kirby’s passing leaves a deep void, not only in the lives of those who knew him personally but also in the hearts of anyone who came across his story—whether through Shallow Hal or through the ripple effects of his compassion and grace.

As we remember Kirby, we are reminded that beauty isn’t about what we see—it’s about how we make others feel. Kirby made the world feel like a kinder, more accepting place. And for that, he will never be forgotten.

He is survived by family, dear friends, and a grateful community. A memorial service will be held in Burlington later this month, and those wishing to honor Kirby’s life are encouraged to make donations to local shelters or youth programs in his name.

Rest in peace, Kirby. Thank you for showing the world what true beauty looks like.